How much does TV affect our relationships?

At dinner this evening with my friends, we were having a discussion regarding my friends upcoming nuptials. About how the evening and the days to come were going to be filled with sex. Which is all fine and dandy for her. The subject then merged into the upcoming movie "Sex and the City" and the importance of having sex before marriage. The point was made that it is important to have sex before marriage because "Charlotte didn't (with Trey) and it ended up being a horrible marriage."

In the words of Carrie, "I wondered....our we as a society judging our morals on the basis of a television show that was written by a bunch of writers."

There is suppose to be something more in a relationship than just sex, but TV, not just Sex and the City, seems to skim over that part. A relationship as far as I can see it is suppose to be about two people that are compatible with one another, and maybe it is just the woman in me talking, but I believe that the most important compatibility should be related to your ability to have amazing sex. I think that amazing sex should arise from your compatibility based on personality and shared interests, a feeling that you have when around one another.

I think that the entertainment industry, TV, media and movies, have diluted what should be important in a strong lasting relationship. They sell the public ideas of what they think and value as important and over time it seems that these values are slowly incorporated into what we feel and think. This fast paced lifestlye of meeting someone and being with them before you know anything about them on a personal level. It seems like you are already setting yourself up for disappointment.

Things worked out for everyone in Sex and the City, not because that is an accurate reflection of what life is but because the writers decide to make it work out that way. The t's were crossed and the i's dotted and together they worked to make a perfect picture of what life would be like if these directions were followed. But the truth is that entertainment is art, not life.

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